Mom Wars..

Why does it seem the media likes to protray that moms are against each other and that there is a constant battle between different styles of parenting.
For example working moms vs stay at home moms, or attachment parenting vs cry it out. I know there are differences in parenting and that not every form of parenting works for every family. In stead of playing the differences as being a bad thing, why can they not be a good thing. Why can we not use our differences to make parenting easier for all of us.

In stead of fighting over what is right or wrong why not accept that not everyone is going to do things the same way and that we should use our differences to make life easier for all of us. Stay at home moms should work with working moms to help take their kids to practices etc that their own children are already going to.

Non co-sleeping moms could advise co sleeping moms, when they ask, on ways to help transition their child to their own bed rooms and do so without criticizing.

Not all parenting styles are going to work for all families, we have to chose what works best for us and at the end of the day go to bed knowing that we are doing the right thing for our children and our family. Instead of beating someone up for not doing the same thing, rejoice in the differences and help eachother when we can, instad of making eachother feel bad for not doing things the same way we do.

Just random thoughts at mindnight when I can not sleep and well thought maybe if I write this down I will stop thinking about it and go to sleep..

Thanks for reading my ramblings.

Kalie Rose at Gymnastics

Kalie Rose had her "performance" tonight at gymnastics. I was finally able to get a few pictures of her at work. She is so cute, and please forgive the blue panties sticking out, she has this thing about wearing panties under her leotard. Lets hope that when it comes to time to go to the pool she will wear her bathing suit minus the panties.

Thank you Mom!

There are not enough words out there that can express how important our moms are to us in our lives. Becoming a mom has taught me that no matter what I do, I will never be able to thank my mom enough for all that she has done for me, heck for all of us.

I have never admired anyone as much as I do my mom, she is strong, brave and has more courage than anyone I know. She allowed me to make my own mistakes but she was there to pick me up when I did and help me to get back on my own two feet.

I have been blessed with an awesome mom, I could not imagine my life without her in it.

Thank you Mom, for all you have done, and all you have yet to do.

My life with Triplets, I wrote this when the kids turned two..

My life before triplets was very full, well maybe full is not the right word, and busy is more like it. I was very successful in my work, which meant I was very busy.
Traveling to Vegas, New York, Dallas, Orlando, etc, it seemed as if I always had some where I had to be and someone I had to see.
I was "hurried", successful and dressed in the best. My life was my career, and no this was not by choice, the choice was made for me.
The child I longed to have, the baby I dreamed of day and night did not seem to be meant to be. So I worked, I traveled, I went to concerts, sporting events and saw the world. Yet there was still this longing inside of me that would not go away. All my friends envied me, they wanted to be me, and all I wanted was to be a mom.

I dreamed of a life with a child, of how wonderful it would be. However to be honest I never dreamed I would not continue to work. Oh how that changed.

Then one Sunday morning in September of 2003, I peed on a stick, one of my favorite past times it seemed, and there were two lines, the next day the blood test confirmed that it was in fact true. I was pregnant. Three short weeks later at the first ultrasound I learned that our family would be growing gy three and not one.

Overcome with fear, excitement and joy I read everything I could. I learned life as I knew it wa over and I could not have been happier. I quit work at 12 weeks, went on bed rest at 19 weeks and I never looked back.

Now two years later after the birth of my babies, my life is truly full I can say it is complete and full. Not hurried, not rushed but busy and full.

My clothes are stained, smell of baby food and spit up. My nails no longer manicured and I do not remember the last time I put lotions on mu hands.

I gained so much by becoming a mom, and even more by becoming a mom of triplets. I lost, gave up, meetings, angry clients, angry bosses, long lines, airport delays and layovers. Working 12 and sometimes 14 hour days, lonely hotel rooms, always being in a hurry to get somewhere and going no where. Before my life was passing me by, I was going through the motions. Now I watch sunsets, and yes the sun rise at times, I have days that we stay in pj's all day long, i dance in the living room to nursery rhymes and act silly to get a laugh and I smile a lot. That is the big difference in my life. I smile now more than ever.

I can not believe how fast the past two years have gone by. I can not believe the friendships I have gained, the joy that having triplets has brought my life I would not go back to before triplets for anything.

Off Topic, hey I am allowed.. A great health blog

I was doing some research about sun damage to the skin, as most of you know I have been an avid sun worshiper for as long as I can remember and well lately I have been thinking that this may not be so great for my skin.

I even went as far as going to the dermatologist. I am happy to say that she said that she envied my skin and it showed no signs of my sun worshiping. (good for me and good for my tan) I still wanted to research more on sun damage and what to look for etc. In doing so I found healthy fellow, which is a site dedicated to your health, diet, exercise and Natural Health. I spent so much time here reading the post this morning that I forgot to eat breakfast.

http://www.healthyfellow.com/

I spend a great deal of time researching natural cures for things that are bothering me and my family. After all I would much rather not put anything harmful in my body or in my children's bodies. With all that is going on with them I can not be to careful.

Take a few minutes to check out Healthy Fellows blog you will not walk away disappointed.

http://www.healthyfellow.com/

Kalie Rose _ Ear drum rupture

Kalie Rose is such a shy girl and so embarrassed about everything, so bad in fact that when her ear started hurting she did not want to tell us, then when it started draining she also did not tell us.

Needless to say when I noticed the goop dripping from her ear I freaked out. Now Kalie is no stranger to ear infections, in fact she had tubes that have since fallen out, however she is a stranger to ear drainage. So of course I freaked out.

We ran to the doctors office to learn that the pressure from the build up of fluid in her ear canal resulted in her busting her ear drum, which it turns out is a good thing in this situation. As now her ear is draining the fluid and it will reduce the pain.

So we are on a course of antibiotics and ear drops, then it is off to the ENT to have things checked with more detail.

Her not telling us and being so shy is associated with her SPD, she is a combination of an avoider and seeker, she avoids some things, even was thought to have selective mutism for a while but that fear is now gone.

oh well another day, another doctors appointment and now it is off to school this morning. Five more days left.

Ankle update

Well this is aparently not about the children, hey I have a life other than them.

I went to the ortho yesterday and he has decided that I was not able to avoid surgery, after consulting with a different doctor this morning and getting the same conclusion it looks like I will be having my ankle operated on in the fall.

So why the fall, I have no desire to be in a cast all summer and going through surgery and therapy, so we are going to wait till the kids are settled in school next fall and have the procedure done.

We will do an MRI next week to determine what extent of surgery will needed, he is thinking we will have to graft ligaments from another part of my foot in order to repair it to where it needs to be. So wish me luck.



As far as the trio goes, it is just another day in our crazy household. End of school, and all the changes that come with that.

Gotta run to gymnastics now.

Pictures, Pictures and more Pictures of the kids

Antics of Monday Morning

After four days of no school today was very stressful for some reason for the kids. I am not sure if it is because they know that school is almost out of if it is the weather but they were in rare form this morning. Kalie woke up in a mood and needing extra attention. We sat in the rocker and did brushing for about ten minutes to get her to reality. Then Douglas started in with the lights and his helicopter being missing. 30 minutes later and it was John Michaels turn. He is not as easy to calm down as he other two so this took time. We started with deep pressure and wrapping him tight in a blanket and ended with brush therapy. I think that by the time I got them to school they were doing great. But oh what a morning it was.

Lets hope that when I pick them up that they are okay..

Today is a busy day for us, I have a dr appointment this afternoon to have my ankle checked from my fall last November. We are doing an MRI to make sure it healed properly. Keep your fingers crossed. I am not looking forward to the possibility of surgery to repair it.

To seperate them or not

That is the question of the day. It is one that as a mom of multiples I have so many mixed feelings on. They will be going off to school next year, kindergarten, we are very excited about. The issue at hand is do I put all three in the same room or do I separate them in to individual rooms.


When they were born I was elated to know that it was not up to me if my children would be in the same room or not, it was in fact up to the state and school district. I was livid and thought there is no way a school is going to tell me if my kids will be in the same room or not. I also thought they will be in the same room, that there is no way they would be ready to be separated.

Now here I am with all the advice from the doctors, therapist their teachers right now and everyone says the same thing, separate them. They all have different needs and everyone thinks that it would help them to be more sure of them selves and not depend on the others as much.

I have till late June, early July to make the decision, but right now I am leaning towards putting them each in their own class room, but then again I have several months before school starts so who knows what I will do.